SRIMAD MAHABHARATA - AADI PARVA - SAMBHAVA (UPA) PARVA - PART 79

"Shukra continued, 'O Devayani, know that he that do not pay attention the evil speeches of others, conquers everything! The wise say that he is a true charioteer who without slackening holds tightly the reins of his horses. He, therefore, is the true man that controls, without indulging in his rising anger. O Devayani, you know that by him is everything conquered, who calmly subdues his rising anger. He is regarded as a man who by having possibility to forgiveness, shakes off his rising anger like a snake casting off its dead outer skin. He that suppresses his anger, he that regards not the evil speeches of others, he that becomes not angry, though there be cause, certainly acquires the four objects for which we live (viz., Dharma, Arthaa, Kaamaa, and Moksha). Between him that performs without tiredness yagnas every month for a hundred years, and him that never feels angry at anything, he that feels not anger is certainly the higher. Boys and girls, unable to distinguish between right and wrong, quarrel with each other. The wise never imitate them.'

"Devayani, on hearing this speech of her father, said, 'O father, I know, also what the difference is between anger and forgiveness as regards the power of each. But when a disciple behaves disrespectfully, he should never be forgiven by the Guru if the latter is really desirous of insulting the former. Therefore, I do not desire to live any longer in a country where evil behaviour is at a premium. The wise man desirous of good, should not dwell among those sinfully inclined men who always speak ill of good behaviour and high birth. But indeed, one should live there that has been said to be the best of dwelling places -- where good behaviour and purity of birth are known and respected. The cruel words uttered by Vrishaparvaa's daughter (Sharmishtaa) burn my heart like men, desirous of kindling a fire, burn the dry fuel. I do not think anything more miserable for a man in the three worlds than to adore one's enemies blessed with good fortune, himself possessing none. It has been indeed said by the learned that for such a man even death would be better.'"